Mary Ann Morano - Iloilo Metropolitan Times https://www.imtnews.ph Developmental News, Critical Views Thu, 04 Jun 2026 20:30:22 +0000 en-US hourly 1 224892800 Review center or self-review? https://www.imtnews.ph/review-center-or-self-review/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=review-center-or-self-review https://www.imtnews.ph/review-center-or-self-review/#respond Thu, 04 Jun 2026 20:30:17 +0000 https://www.imtnews.ph/?p=43712 “BILIB LANG AKO SA NAG TOPNOTCHER NA HINDI NAGREVIEW CENTER,” said one teacher vlogger. I have been in the teaching vocation for almost all my life. In 2003, I was a part of one of the biggest language centers in Iloilo City when teaching Koreans was at its peak . Until now, I am still […]

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“BILIB LANG AKO SA NAG TOPNOTCHER NA HINDI NAGREVIEW CENTER,” said one teacher vlogger.

I have been in the teaching vocation for almost all my life. In 2003, I was a part of one of the biggest language centers in Iloilo City when teaching Koreans was at its peak . Until now, I am still engaged in education as a school directress— this time of my own school/s since 2019. I am a journalist by profession and the only thing that would make me a legal practicing teacher is the license. So, I enrolled for a teaching certificate and took the board. When the LEPT result was released in December last year, I never doubted myself to pass. In fact, I was hoping for the top 10, despite just doing SELF-REVIEW. I first searched for my name on the list. But then, for some reason, I fell short on a few points. Although, I got a considerably high rate overall. I wasn’t able to reach my expected rate in General Education probably due to erasures (as for my estimate I should’ve gotten somewhere 90 or higher) and got only 80+ rate in Professional Education because I was very complacent that it is the easiest of all, as most of what I have reviewed on, with the resources online, were too logical & situational, and I usually had 2-3 mistakes only in most drills.

Then, something knocked, “WHAT IF I JOINED A REVIEW CENTER?” What if I took the traditional way to achieve that specific goal —which was not just to PASS? Things could’ve turned to my favor— and probably, I could have performed better than just doing things on my own.

So, yes, REVIEW CENTERS matter and they exist to SUPPORT— to make sure that ONE GETS A POSITIVE RESULT, either the goal is to PASS or to TOP because you can neither retake the board nor change your fate to improve your rate once you passed. So, to avoid the WHAT IFs, it is always fair you acquire the much needed learning and exam strategies from the best review center/s—given the chance to get the guidance, especially when you are on the most ideal direction. At review centers, not only will you learn projections, but you will also acquire the skills helpful in facing crucial or confusing aspects.

Carlo E. Balita, founder of a recognized review center in the Philippines—is right after all, that “YOU DON’T NEED TO IMPRESS ANYONE.”

Who CARES about what others think? Bitterness of others’ success is actually one of the hardest to beat, it stains deep inside a person.

Isn’t it that teachers exist to make learning effective, and to sharpen the mind of students? So as, REVIEW CENTERS exist to produce the BEST of the CROP.

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How moms love https://www.imtnews.ph/how-moms-love/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-moms-love https://www.imtnews.ph/how-moms-love/#respond Tue, 26 May 2026 21:28:45 +0000 https://www.imtnews.ph/?p=43212 I have known one person who loves her children, just that she was born and built differently. She is half Japanese, half Filipino and my hunch is that, she would be defined as  “weird” based on the Filipino standard of motherhood. In traditional homes, moms are expected to wake up early, cook for the family […]

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I have known one person who loves her children, just that she was born and built differently. She is half Japanese, half Filipino and my hunch is that, she would be defined as  “weird” based on the Filipino standard of motherhood.

In traditional homes, moms are expected to wake up early, cook for the family whose spouse prepares for work and children go to school. A nanay is somebody who would nurture her kids with care from infancy or even until adulthood. But, this woman I know was not really given the opportunity to raise hers in a healthy home. She lost her husband while pregnant with her seventh. She had to go abroad to make a living and somehow send support to her children who were all studying, although along the way she lost her direction, young as she became a widow, that she forgot what priorities actually are, because she didn’t even grow in a pure Filipino environment and had no concrete experience of a real mother care.

We thought she became astray because she didn’t even bother to check on her children under the custody of their grandmother. With her absence as they grew, her children at first felt forsaken, unwanted and unloved. They really could not understand how a mother couldn’t feel an ounce of devotion for the people she once carried for 9 months. But then, confused as her children have been, they did not judge or hate her. Deep inside, they could still recall a woman who was really good at cooking “Dinuguan & adobo.”

As the children had the chance to stay under her roof in Japan after years of separation, she would prepare special dishes for them, or would bring home meals late night from work. She would spoil them with whatever she had and wouldn’t even speak any ill. All that you could hear from her are praises of her children and of how proud she has been as a mother.

Then one day, she got really sick. She developed a chronic kidney disease, and had episodes of cardiac attacks. Her children argued  a lot of the most necessary steps and decisions, but agreed on one thing— to give her the best healthcare. She is without a doubt blessed because at the end of the day, the children have chosen to accept and embrace her traits and uniqueness unconditionally, raised with learnings from a granny that a family—no matter how imperfect, no matter how hurt, should protect  and care for each other, because things happen with a purpose. She knew first hand, that her children would surely grow well-educated and have a better future under their paternal grandmother.

Then there’s this child who also tried to fight by her side during her life battle and knew that she would likewise give all her might so the mother would live. However, she hid away and turned her back in the most crucial moment, for her heart couldn’t handle to watch a mother tucked with a life support tube to sustain her lungs in an intensive care unit, as death is her greatest fear. She trusted her Mom would be in good hands with her other siblings who have been monitoring her and taking care of her. Then came that feeling the child was so embarrassed and didn’t know how to reconnect and explain why she assured to be there for her at first but without any sign disappeared, when most needed.

That unique child— is me.

Now, I understand why my Mom did what she did. My heart is as weak as the one who gave me life, when the people we love are the subject. However, as wise as she was that we will all turn out as fine adults with our Lola, I was also as confident, my siblings would give their best shots for her, as I keep on praying for her continuous recovery and getting updates from a far.

In fact, our Mama has given birth to women with wonderful families— the type of moms who would hope to live longer, just so their children could grow with support and protection by their side.

Motherhood is complicated when pictured in totally different situations and most people are too quick to judge in a negative manner because of the so called standards and culture.

But, LOVE- expressed in multitude ways is subjective. So does — how we have known our Mom. She is her own person, as her circumstances in life. And this Mother’s month, she deserves to know that she is beautiful, special, valued and appreciated, her children would breakdown losing her. God knows.

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SMDC Style fails to turn over, hits clients by blow https://www.imtnews.ph/smdc-style-fails-to-turn-over-hits-clients-by-blow/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=smdc-style-fails-to-turn-over-hits-clients-by-blow Tue, 27 Jan 2026 05:35:51 +0000 https://www.imtnews.ph/?p=38960 Investing on real property as such house and lot, apartments and condominiums has been a trend these recent years that buildings and subdivisions have sprouted like mushrooms in Iloilo City, not just because of the fast appraisal on the monetary aspect, as what we usually think, and as clearly presented by sales consultants or agents […]

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Investing on real property as such house and lot, apartments and condominiums has been a trend these recent years that buildings and subdivisions have sprouted like mushrooms in Iloilo City, not just because of the fast appraisal on the monetary aspect, as what we usually think, and as clearly presented by sales consultants or agents whenever they are selling, that these are tangible and are future assets, due to their value appreciation, which I believe is a relevant consideration in making a decision whether to acquire a real property or place your money on other moving investments, but also because of other reasons, as such, you can make use of them, not just for rental business or future investments, but for many, as a personal habitat , or for some, the acquisition is a bucket list achieved!

Naturally as parents, as early as age zero for others or for us, personally, we have clear plans ahead preparing our children in college. We live in Miagao, 42 km. away from the city of Iloilo. While working abroad, my eldest son was in elementary then, I have intricately jotted down the pros and cons of whether to choose a house and lot or a condominium for my children, as they practically need a place to stay in the city when they step in high school or college, and I also wanted them to feel they live in our own home and not renting others’ property. The sense of security and warmth of being in your own dwelling, is important for us as our children continue their school, which they have to spend time for more than ten years, high school and college combined, as my younger child plans to take medicine. Renting for me is burdensome and a waste of money, thus, we finally opted to acquire a condominium unit for the many benefits it could offer.

It was in 2019, SMDC STYLE was on pre-selling, my son was in junior high school then, when we made our first payment for the equity of our major investment in the city, just like a trust fund for our children’s future living convenience, confident that a catastrophe is far from reality. We have chosen SMDC Style, primarily for its location as it is just at the back of the mall, and for its future value once we don’t see the need to use it after our children’s education. The estimated turn over date is May 2023. We understand the delay due to the pandemic, that we temporarily rented an apartment while waiting for the turn over. However, we were informed multiple times of different turn-over dates each year 2023, 2024, 2025 and the latest according to the management as per their engineering team, is January 2026. The date has arrived and as usual, we were eager to move the kids to their own place and stop the spending on rent, but just recently, they moved it again to October 2026, like their delays have caused us hundreds of thousand pesos on temporary rental and time wasted, the most unfortunate– long-term life plans ruined or in chaos as we have trusted the words and commitment of a giant and established company- SM Prime Holdings, INC,. as many perceived known for its excellence in integrated property business—but has been in series of chaos expressed through multiple clienteles’ complaints on substandard construction and turn over delays.

Imagine, the almost finished University of Manila beside the mall, and three of the public markets in Iloilo City, which used to be plans, even during the active selling years of SMDC Style. NEW MALLS NOW COMPLETED FAST PACED! But the STYLE CLIENTS— who have been paying for the units since 2019—still waiting for the turn over until 2026 or maybe counting? And then there’s SMDC Glade Residences in Balago, Jaro, again? That quick?! When they couldn’t even fully finish the LONG OVER DUE SMDC STYLE since 2019? Wow! SM PRIME HOLDINGS, INC., has been failing their clients over and over again, thus composes the over 7,000 members of dissatisfied clients group on facebook. Yet, never listened to!

Are condominium clients really valued? The years of delay have proven our worth. The implied crippled or focus-biased engineering and the deaf customer service teams combined are like ghosts—hunting us in our sleep. May our distressed voice hit your conscience hard, as we—your clients, represent your failed commitments, because every peso we pay to your company comes from our sweat, time and hardships, supposedly intended for the realization of our plans and dreams for our family members—devalued like scrap by SM PRIME HOLDINGS, INC.

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Garin Jr. Moves to Miagao at the Right Time https://www.imtnews.ph/garin-jr-moves-to-miagao-at-the-right-time/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=garin-jr-moves-to-miagao-at-the-right-time Sat, 05 Jul 2025 17:46:05 +0000 https://www.imtnews.ph/?p=33899 I joined print journalism in 2003 and politics has always been a daily topic for us. I’ve heard of Garins, especially OCA Sr., but as a newbie, I never had a deep interest in the First District politicians’ issues, because I grew up in Jaro. Thus, during my time, it has been the Gonzalezes, Malabors, […]

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I joined print journalism in 2003 and politics has always been a daily topic for us. I’ve heard of Garins, especially OCA Sr., but as a newbie, I never had a deep interest in the First District politicians’ issues, because I grew up in Jaro. Thus, during my time, it has been the Gonzalezes, Malabors, Ganzons, comes the rise of Trenas and Mabilog specifically, whom I got the chance to personally interview and feature in my column at Sun.Star Weekend, prior to when he won as the first councilor of Iloilo City.

I just didn’t have any idea I would be marrying a Miagaoanon and that when I transferred residency in this town, the Nobles and the Flores were the most trusted parents / alternating Mayors of the First Class Municipality, that my husband got the chance to run under their party as Sangguniang Bayan. Apparently, majority of them, lost for the first time in history in 2013! Everyone was speechless or mum that time with the turns of events in Miagao politics that favored the party Garins supported. Much when, it was like a revolt campaign when Oscar Richard Garin Jr., a native of Guimbal, moved to Miagao and run as Mayor in 2022, who also won despite I could say, one of the toughest and full of controversies campaigns, with slogans like, “Miagao is for Miagaoanon.”

As for me and my husband, despite the lost of our party, it’s always our mantra to respect the electoral process and observe how the elected politicians work. With that, I mean, what will be the changes or the difference in the quality of public service compared to before, may it be in health, livelihood , education, infrastructure, benefiting the people, etc.

Three years of close watch and we’ve seen many evident projects I couldn’t even fully elaborate, starting with the most vital– concreted roads even to the farthest barangays, visibly for me, the renovation of the SK Gym, which multiple times, I cursed on social media its slovenly appearance due to the presence of unattended garbage in the surrounding. The finally, utilized public market which has been left unfinished for more than six years since it was first constructed. The now rehabilitated and airconditioned JRBB Hall- the biggest and the only cultural center of Miagaonon that stands as witness to the people’s historic events, which used to be time-worn and has not even undergone minor repairs for God’s sake, mosquitos bourgeoning at the back with its make-up room’s neglected ceiling that poses danger or worst, floor’s even flooding on rainy days. The most recently transformed Miagao Plaza, which is now called “People’s Center,” with high roof and can now be benefited by the people in sports, school occasions, simple Zumba, and other community programs, regardless of the weather.

The above-mentioned projects, and others that I said I couldn’t state here as there are more, completed in a three-year-term are solid proofs that we have a Mayor who is obviously observing, willing to walk the talk, and strives to serve and give more to the people despite the consistent criticism. The current and the approved on going projects as Garin Jr. serves his second term used to be mere hopes and wishes at the back of the people’s head, and I know they’ve been waiting for a leader who could make the impossible possible. Thus, Mayor Richard Garin Jr., moves to Miagao, at the right time, when help is called for, or when romanticism and conceit could only hinder positive development that Miagaoanons fairly deserve.

For when no natives could selflessly stand heroic, answering the buried concerns of the people, why do we keep on scrutinizing those who pay attention? Why should we settle for less? Enough said.

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So what, if non-mandatory? https://www.imtnews.ph/so-what-if-non-mandatory/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=so-what-if-non-mandatory Wed, 18 Jun 2025 05:36:04 +0000 https://www.imtnews.ph/?p=33516 Brigada Eskwela is NOT an activity everyone is excited about, especially when it means, “cleaning” or “energy draining” to some or maybe, many? This school year, the program commences June 9, Monday. As the PTA President of Iloilo National High School, Special Program for Business and Entrepreneurship, I coordinated with one of our head teachers […]

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Brigada Eskwela is NOT an activity everyone is excited about, especially when it means, “cleaning” or “energy draining” to some or maybe, many?

This school year, the program commences June 9, Monday. As the PTA President of Iloilo National High School, Special Program for Business and Entrepreneurship, I coordinated with one of our head teachers to make sure the schedule and activities are well aligned or organized and hopefully will be effective, by relaying down information to class officers. I cleared my schedule, booked a hotel overnight, just so I could avoid being late for this activity because the target was to prepare the Science Centrum or now called the SPBE building—to at least be decent for the students, cobwebs removed and dusts sitting everywhere wiped out. The said structure used to be an observatory on purpose, and not really that suitable for classrooms because the air ventilation is somewhat challenging that the school has taken its initiative to have it renovated through the LGU. Despite its current condition, the SPBE learners are still on the brighter situation as the space’ conversion into classrooms has been a tool in implementing the classes to on-campus from the origin online modality.

INHS is a huge public school, in fact, one of the biggest in the Visayas or even the Philippines with around 6,000-8,000 students yearly and with the most special programs, designed for the talented, the skilled, and the geniuses, that any parent must understand the responsibilities of the school heads’ are quite tough, one can’t elaborate. Thus, I believe a little help from the parents considered as partners and stakeholder can move mountains,  especially when it comes from one’s own will to create a positive change.

However, despite the advocacy or the enlightenment of the volunteer parents, the call was not entirely heard or felt that I observed, far from 20% of the parents in the entire school attended or felt it as necessary. There’s really something missing in the Philippine government education system, especially in subsidizing “able’ families who can even send their kids to private schools, but rather avoid spending a penny. Thus, sending their babies instead in prominent public schools for association and benefits, yet, show less care in doing their parental duties of collaborating or cooperating with the school in the education growth of their children, thinking that once their children stepped in the campus, the education institution is to be fully blamed for facilities or efforts lacking.

It seems that parenting these days are directing into a slum. I mean, when we say “volunteer’ or “non-mandatory,’ most would never give a damn care at all. Like, “Why should we be there? Why should we contribute? We still have more things needing attention!”

What is more important than making sure that your children’s second home is mosquitoes-free or dust-free or wouldn’t cause “asthma’ that might harm the dearest, most loved kid?” What is more ideal than a safe and comfortable space for learning?

Being responsible head of the family probably focuses more at home for many, rather than being involved in their children’s daily life outside of it. Let me remind you that “Education is two-way!” School helps the children, parents help the school more, and that should be very clear and doesn’t even need a reminder. Instead, why not ask, “What can we do (to help) for our children?’

In that case, what kind of community do we expect 10 or 20 years from today, when the parents, children model don’t even know what “Bayanihan” means. Well, volunteerism could be dead for the entitled.

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Siqui- move forward! https://www.imtnews.ph/siqui-move-forward/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=siqui-move-forward Sat, 14 Jun 2025 04:22:12 +0000 https://www.imtnews.ph/?p=33470 Summer is almost over for primary learners, as such elementary and secondary. However, semestral vacation is only about to begin for college students. Mid April my family went to Siquijor, and it’s our first time to be able to visit that Island. We used to spend summer together on a long road drive to different […]

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Summer is almost over for primary learners, as such elementary and secondary. However, semestral vacation is only about to begin for college students.

Mid April my family went to Siquijor, and it’s our first time to be able to visit that Island. We used to spend summer together on a long road drive to different islands in the country. This year, only with our daughter as my son’s classes are still on going, so we tagged along a very close family friend, Godfather of our son, to make the activities more fun.

“ Siquijor is overrated! “ as my daughter of fourteen years old described. She has been in and out of the country multiple times, and being able to live just four to five hours away from Boracay Island, she was not impressed nor fascinated at all about Siquijor, especially that it was very challenging to get a spot on a ship to cross our Toyota hi-ace van, via RORO, that we had to stay overnight in Dumagute. Good thing for us, we had the chance to see the thermal mountain, refresh at Pulang Bato Resort which has three magnificent falls and enjoyed a fine dine at Sans Rival Bistro, maker of the famous pastry Silvanas.

Reaching the mystical island, I was taken aback why there are too many foreign tourists in Siquijor, as much as or more than Boracay actually has, and that they look very comfortable and at peace in the Island, riding on scooters, sand bathing even in the middle of foot-walks, or that why Anne Curtis frequents it according to locals.

More than the majestic falls, which naturally spring wherever you set your foot on, or the white beaches, and the lively nights, the locals are nowhere comparable for me. The people of siquijor are like gems more valuable than the Island itself, they reminded me of how helpful Japanese are. They possess smiling welcoming faces and extending arms, like every tourist is a huge blessing! Siquijor beaches aren’t as developed as Boracay or Bohol and I haven’t seen even a single five star hotel, as the normal types of accommodation are apartments, dorms, small resorts, or even residential converted into hostels, but the human service— extraordinary! I remember returning to our accommodation past midnight and the rain was pouring, but the caretaker had to stay awake just to open the gate to let our van in. It might be a part of the service— but not all are like that, they would usually just leave the gates open, watch you do the thing and que sera sera. Coming from a day tour in Cambugahay Falls, and Salagdoong Resort, near the 200 hectares man-made forest, we tried our luck seeing another falls almost 6PM and though it was getting dark, the folks were too kind to welcome and guide us in trekking for about fifteen minutes saying, “Okay pa yan, basta’s makikita pa ang daan.” Business hours until 5PM only.

The beauty of siquijor is not something bare eyes could appreciate, but it is heart-melting for tourists like me who believe that the epitome of tourism isn’t merely the landscapes but is genuinely felt in the warmth of the people. Did you know that I was a bit worried I would be encountering wicked witches or sorcerers, but it’s the total opposite. The natives seem not really comprehend how famous they are, not just in the Philippines, but in many countries.

I believe, that tourism is something huge in that Island, the Philippine government through the Department of Tourism, the Public Works and Highways, Department of Energy, should exert more effort to boost the folk’s business either through livelihood financial extension, improving the road to poblacion, and oh, most basically, the power, since it is put under state of emergency due to lack of energy supply. Either way, the local government has to exert better initiatives to aid islanders who rely on the tourists as primary source of living.

As for me, we had the best of whatever the people are coined by— and I understood now why the Island is mystical— because you will be tamed to revisit, not just to fairy-walk.

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How about Japanese littering in main districts? https://www.imtnews.ph/how-about-japanese-littering-in-main-districts/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-about-japanese-littering-in-main-districts Thu, 05 Jun 2025 08:50:58 +0000 https://www.imtnews.ph/?p=33319 Discovering places while learning different culture and lifestyle is the most practical way to learn new things for me. In a span of a year, my family flew abroad three times, once in Hong Kong and Macau in December 2024 and twice in Japan just this May 2025 and July 2024. Most likely the experiences […]

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Discovering places while learning different culture and lifestyle is the most practical way to learn new things for me.

In a span of a year, my family flew abroad three times, once in Hong Kong and Macau in December 2024 and twice in Japan just this May 2025 and July 2024. Most likely the experiences have instilled cultural, ethical and economic realizations for me because we don’t just normally visit historic places, we also observe the folk’s way of life and oh, shop a lot.

Japan is always our favorite to go country not only because my siblings and their families still live there, or I used to be a resident of the country, but because everything Japanese is just admirable, deep and almost perfect.

Currently, we stayed for seven days at Tokyo district in Katsushika, which is quiet and away from the hustles and bustles of the capital. In the corner of our accommodation, my husband was fond of this bar which he visited every night with our friend, after our day activities with the kids. He called it, “Happy hour.” aside from loving their tasty pork grills, he had fun sharing common topics with “tired” Japanese, as he described. Despite the language barrier, I knew they understood each other through his amusing stories.

I remember arriving in Japan late night and exited Ueno Station for a bowl of ramen, but it was hard to find a place to eat, because my daughter is a minor and she is strictly not allowed to get in all restaurants serving alcohol from 10PM, as obviously, men and women still in their work clothes occupy most of the tables.

I could also recall walking around main streets in Shibuya with my husband around 10PM because he wanted to capture the most crowded, “scramble crossing” in the world, but we were surprised that the night is on a hype — not just co-incidental to when we visited but every single day. You can see adults, identifiably, youth circling with friends in city parks or just anywhere, holding a can of beer, very engaging, dancing, laughing, or even joking around strangers like they are not the typical shy or introvert Japanese the world knows! People litter and smoke everywhere, literally throwing their junks on the street without any care, you would easily judge and hate them, as if you’d burst, “What the heck, I don’t know who these people are.”

However, I am glad this is happening! Because a few hours prior to midnight, they spend all their energy and time at work, standing for more than eight hours at factories, carrying heavy machines and industrial parts, or drowning their time and brain in science and technology advancement, or in my personal experience, teaching at school and at a language center from 8AM until 8PM way back. Japanese deserve an hour or two relaxing the way they please for as long as they cause no harm to others, for damn sake of their mental health, because every day of their life they are expected to be consistently “yasashi” (kind) and “majime” (diligent) as if there is no room for waiting or sitting, and minutes of delay at work isn’t even permissible, no matter how shattered they feel inside. So yes, they’re totally allowed to be drunk, to forget the bad and remember the good, with or without reasons at all. Drinking and merry-making aren’t just like occasional festivities in the land of the rising sun. They’re a huge part of Japanese’ way of survival, getting ready for another battlefield.

Did you know that after all the mixture of fun and chaos, before the sun says hello, while everyone is deeply asleep, Nippon’s crowded and lively districts – as such Shibuya, becomes mess-free leaving no traces of the night , more than ready to smitten aliens like us again, with its green and modernity balance, which is something distinct and extraordinary about Japanese discipline.

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Self-love is a Game Changer https://www.imtnews.ph/self-love-is-a-game-changer/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=self-love-is-a-game-changer Tue, 11 Feb 2025 00:52:24 +0000 https://www.imtnews.ph/?p=30896 It seemed like netizens have assumed too much that Philmar Alipayo and Andi Eigenmann have separated because they unfollowed each other on social media, while the latest video showed that the couple was dining together with their elders and kids along the spread of the controversy. Further, that there was no confirmation of the break-up […]

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It seemed like netizens have assumed too much that Philmar Alipayo and Andi Eigenmann have separated because they unfollowed each other on social media, while the latest video showed that the couple was dining together with their elders and kids along the spread of the controversy. Further, that there was no confirmation of the break-up from any of the party.

Wow! Social media indeed is a “chismis” powerhouse gone too far. As they say, “Paladesisyon” and “Pakialamero.” However, Andi as a famous influencer, who openly shares her family life on Facebook and Instagram, automatically encourages commentaries and opinion and she is used to being praised or scrutinized, unless she keeps her Island life away from critiques by choosing to live privately. Thus, she surely knows what she’s dealing with.

As for me, there is nothing wrong about deciding to be with the person you love and leave the life you were born in or used to because having a family or to be single is a choice. In case of Andi, being an actress and in showbiz like her parents, the late Jacklyn Jose and Mark Gil who left vital footprints in the history of entertainment industry, it’s also normal that she has chosen to leave show business to follow the love her life, because at the end of the day humans innately enjoy making decisions out of our infinite choices. So, does Andi, standing by it as long as she could, where she feels needed and loved.

But, isn’t it also as important to love ourselves first and know our worth, that way we will have enough love to give? According to April Eldemire, a psychotherapist who specializes in marriage and couples’ issues, new-parenthood transitions and blended family dynamics, “With self-love, you’ll show up in relationships as a strong, confident, and secure person. You’ll feel whole, which will end the need for external validation. You’ll love from a place of feeling fulfilled, rather than a place of feeling empty, and you’ll understand your needs, which will help you communicate effectively with your partner. When you truly love yourself, you’ll know what boundaries you need to set, what you’ll put up with, and when to walk away. You’ll show up as an empowered person and healthy partner when you embody self-love.”

When I got married, the first stages were the hardest especially the first five years as I have to adjust everything for my husband. I left home in the city and lived with him in the countryside. I have made decisions focused on family and kids just like Andi did and in the middle of it, I got tired because it seemed like “I’m beginning to feel drained and that I have less love to give.” There was really a point when I have asked, where am I or how am I doing or do I still recognize myself because I just got lost and felt like I was left behind by my husband. I became suspicious, insecure and hated my reflection in the mirror. Perhaps, these were just my assumptions or post-natal worries while raising our child, but then, it was also an awakening that I had to go back to things I naturally love to do. Things I don’t just do because I share it with him. Or things that give me growth as a woman and as a person. I just decided to start loving myself, my imperfections and strength, until little by little, I have regained my confidence and recognized my self-worth, because I knew that was the kind of person my husband has loved in me and that based on where we are now, it has helped me become better either in my career, wellness, and life goals, which, eventually, in our twenty-two years of marriage, has nurtured our relationship to be strong despite the daily demands from our work. Most importantly, I could say, that one day, should I leave Earth, I will have NO regrets, because I have chosen to forgive myself, work on where I lack, and  take the path I wanted to be, personally, socially, and morally.

Seeing the state of life Andi had, may it be in career, the exposed relationships, her wealth, and even considering the unknown prior to Philmar, I cannot lay the right words, or I am in no position to bring out a suitable advice for her. I am also uncertain that what I did could be what she needed because we are in a very different situation. I just hope that the fountain of love which she selflessly shares, will remain substantial, sufficient and won’t run dry.

So goes for all women out there.

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Hands off Mobile Phones! https://www.imtnews.ph/hands-off-mobile-phones/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=hands-off-mobile-phones Fri, 31 Jan 2025 01:08:11 +0000 https://www.imtnews.ph/?p=30683 Visiting Japan is one in the bucket list of many Filipinos and I was blessed to be able to go there multiple times for vacation even after working there for almost seven years, in companies like Hitachi, Toyota and Sony and as a teacher in elementary and junior high schools under the Board Education as […]

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Visiting Japan is one in the bucket list of many Filipinos and I was blessed to be able to go there multiple times for vacation even after working there for almost seven years, in companies like Hitachi, Toyota and Sony and as a teacher in elementary and junior high schools under the Board Education as a job opportunity being a descendant to a Japanese grandfather. Two of my sisters are also teachers and during dinners, we used to share about daily work school events and circumstances, or even culture and norms which we couldn’t help but sometimes compare schools between Japan and the Philippines.

Most of my nieces and nephews study in Japan as my siblings have decided to settle there permanently. As for my kids, they have been enrolled in public and private schools here in Iloilo and for us, parents, the schools they go to actually don’t matter, academics per say, but we are more concerned about the character formation of our children, as we are all aware that based on the nature of growth, or cycle of life, humans enter adolescence stage, and today’s generation-Z, are totally hooked to phone applications for entertainment, games, social interactions or making friends internationally.

I am aware that my kids have to live life offered today by scientists, inventors and programmers and it is inevitable not to use gadgets. However, there are parents like me, who would wish to let their children pause from using their phones for a while, especially when influences are kind of difficult to take care because despite our guidance, kind or strict advice, peer influence and trends are too strong! We all have been through this stage of defying our parents and guardians before and so do they, given!

But what if, the only way families could cut internet connections or keep their kids away from gadgets isn’t possible? Ever! Why? Because public schools seemed to be too dependent on group chats, and that instructions, homework and tasks are laid down inside the GC, or that even learning materials are attached through the GC! How hilarious, when parents try to ban their kids from using their phones, to help them stay away from dating sites, take for example, is quite difficult to do because kids would reason out that they’re using their phones for school! Tendency is, it’s definitely a valid, strong alibi, leaving the parents with no other choice but just trust, hope and pray that their kids will never lie or do anything serious! Then we can only keep on engaging in conversations or guidance that, we pray harder, might work!

In Japan, as the board of education, invests on their children as the future leaders of the nation, the foundational education is quite sacred that they are too keen and strict on implementing school policies in elementary and high school, and that one of which is to keep students’ mobile phones in their lockers before entering the classrooms, which they can only hold again after aall the school classes and activities dismissal. Within school hours, should they have emergencies, advisers have lunch with them inside the classrooms, thus, they can speak with their teachers about their family concerns or that they may use the coin pay phone to call their parents.

But alas! Where does the Philippines Department of Education stand or how do they help keep the kids away from the internet’s threat when parents are moving towards that direction for the safety of their children or when dangers arise? Oh, teach us how?! If it’s necessary in school and we can’t monitor our children 24/7 because they spend most of their time in school?!

According to studies, the youngest age involved in dating sites is 13, and it is illegal, holding the parents liable for misguidance. But how about the schools for minors as accomplices, indirectly? Should we just let our kids fail in academics, if we stand firm on NO PHONES? That way our children can experience nature, or ride on bicycles, and hang out with their cousins, rather than stuck on screen with their online chatmates or dates?

As much as I would like to promote international friendship, the case is not the same for dating applications, which even our 12 year old student, know about and admitted to have used to make friends. Sigh and sigh again.

Paging, rather, hash tagging #DepartmentofEducation #Philippines

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Win, with your people! https://www.imtnews.ph/win-with-your-people/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=win-with-your-people Thu, 28 Nov 2024 00:12:20 +0000 https://www.imtnews.ph/?p=29244 For the second time around, I closed the same restaurant I own in a span of four months and I did not regret it. I am an entrepreneur by heart and I love venturing into different small-medium scale businesses where I have passion in. From education, to travel, to accommodation, to food services, etc. The […]

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For the second time around, I closed the same restaurant I own in a span of four months and I did not regret it.

I am an entrepreneur by heart and I love venturing into different small-medium scale businesses where I have passion in. From education, to travel, to accommodation, to food services, etc. The first thing that I consider in putting up something is that, “Do I have a heart for it?” Because, If I would just be doing it solely for money, and with less purpose, I don’t think I will win in a bigger perspective.

When I decided to reopen my defunct restaurant, I had bigger plans. I wanted to hire a capable chef, to renovate and redesign the place, to shop for necessary equipment, and it wouldn’t really matter even until my purse go drain. I will go all out, because I have a heart for food, every kind of it, from citruses, to carbs, dairies, meat, condiments, etc. And when I travel abroad with family, it will always be the quality of food a locality offers that makes me remember how wonderful the place is and the people are.

The second opening has been successful as the restaurant is serene and that’s what I really wanted it to be. Serene. Calm. Organized. It was a place where I can sit all day and just sip tea, face my laptop and become productive. A place where people like me, can eventually enjoy.

But then, over a month of operation, and situations seem to be out of hand because of certain factors like purchasing, compensation, human resource management. It has been so much loved by the people that I began to lose grasp in the operations, professionally, entirely depending on what the future holds from whether food will come out or not of the kitchen and I am fully aware that that’s not just how a restaurant should be to thrive long term. It doesn’t just start and end at food preparation, because it isn’t a one -man team but should be played by the right people with equal or different skill-sets who are willing to become assets of the company in the next three years and counting.

When I decided to close a very busy, crowded restaurant at a premature stage, of course, I thought of the money that should be coming in but wouldn’t. However, over it, I was looking into deeper matters that only my brain and heart could decipher, having the same Intelligent Quotient of Einstein and with above average Emotional Quotient, it’s really quite chaotic to understand, why I had to do stuff I did, like taking out the perspective that my business can only become successful at the mercy of one person, which  totally I could say, is in a very bad taste if… it’s what others only believe in. Truly, how pitiful blind mindset.

When I plan something, it will always be for the greater good. Will I be helping people and their families?  Will the business matter in the community? Because, truly these make me even happier! But then, when I consider these factors, I also ask, “Do the people I hire to work for me deserve the goodness that I put on their plate should they stay longer in my company?” By means, “Do they have a bigger heart in their craft and for the company aside from personal gains?” For I require loyalty to the company over loyalty to what one can gain from temporary success. Because if that is so, I would also be willing to offer that rare person a dessert cup.

Thus, these past days, when I was weighing things, I realized that I just did what I had to, in the direction I plan to head, because business success is uncertain after all and that I can always stop betting when I’m in the middle of losing the value and purpose of what I am doing.

They say, business is a gamble and that you should always be willing to lose anytime. Then bet again, when you feel like it and the resources can. Who knows, you might win next time.

And that I mean, win with your people in.



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